The thing that bothers me about this discussion is that we pretend that we really know what their relationships were like, off-screen! We know almost nothing about that, as the band members have always been quiet about their personal lives. We now already have three individual (former) family members of Chester claiming that there is (and was) more going on behind the scenes than we know. Honestly, Tobi's tweets seemed honest and caring to me. She didn't call anyone out or wanted to fight. She just wanted to tell the truth.